IRC-Galleria

everytime i think im making a mistake with him .. he makes me fall in love with him all over again <3 ur sooo amazing babe!!!!!

I ride like a soldier
Put nothing before ya
Anything you ask
I'll be right there to do it
But if I react you tell me to relax
Don't need to take it back
Cause boy you put me through it

This circular motion is all we do
I'm so sick of going back and forth with you
You should have been happy to have me


Wish it wasn't true
It's killing me to do
What I gotta do
The problem here is you
Ain't nobody new not even my crew
Could take the place of you
The problem here is you


Cause if you only knew what I felt for you
You would have held on tighter
Fought a little harder
Been a little smarter and now you're gonna miss my love
And one day soon you'll see
You'll reach out for me
Boy you had a keeper
Didn't know how to treat her
Should have felt a little deeper and now you're gonna miss my love


Kick it with ya friends
Go out with other chicks
Be all up in the mix
You got the right to do it
You wanna be a pimp
Be treated like a prince
Go 'head and click the switch
Cause now you got ya crown back


My hugs
My kisses
You know you're gonna miss it
And while you're tripping on the love we could have had
I'm moving on
I got to
Ain't no looking back


Cause if you only knew what I felt for you
You would have held on tighter
Fought a little harder
Been a little smarter and now you're gonna miss my love
And one day soon you'll see
You'll reach out for me
Boy you had a keeper
Didn't know how to treat her
Should have felt a little deeper and now you're gonna miss my love



See boy
You had a keeper
But you didn't know
How to treat her

This is dedicated to my happiness, the one who was my all, my life. Through all the bad times and the good, you were always the one. The one who could stop my tears, make my fears go away , the one who meant the world to me. As I watched you walk out the door today , it was one of the hardest things Ive ever had to endure.I in no way regret these 7 months, you have opened my eyes to so many new things and I am truly grateful to everything weve been through and everything you have done for me.My love for you is irreplacable and I dont know whats gonna happen in the future but you will always have a place in my heart that nobody will ever be able to take.I truly believe I met the right person just at the wrong time. Ive never felt so comftroble with anyone and I doubt I ever will. Being with you made me feel so whole , and I always thought I was but you never realize how empty you truly are until you meet that person who makes you whole and itll be really hard going back to the emptiness I never really realized I had.But I justed wanted to say thank you for you, the memories I will forver cherish and the lifelessons Ive learned along the way .Youve made me a better person and I will never forget you . I love you with all my heart and I hope our last memories togethor will be happy and unforgettable.


Memories don't live like people do-o
Baby don't forget me, I'm a travellin' man
Movin through places, space and time
Gotta lotta things i got to do
GOD willin' I'm comin back to you
My baby boo

I'm a travellin' man
Movin through places, space and time(space and tiiiime)
Gotta lotta things i got to do
But GOD willin' I'm comin back to you
Baby boo
I'm leavin


In Hopes one day my traveling man returns

Heyboy, is she everything you wanted in a girl
You know I gave you the world
You had me in the palm of your hand

So why your love went away
I just can't seem to understand
Thought it was me and you babe
Me and you until the end
But I guess I was wrong

Don't want to think about it
Don't want to talk about it
I'm just so sick about it
Can't believe it's ending this way

Just so confused about it
Feeling the blues about it
I just can't do without ya
Tell me is this fair?

Is this the way it's really going down?
Is this how we say goodbye?
Should've known better when you came around
That you were gonna make me cry
It's breaking my heart to watch you run around
'Cause I know that you're living a lie
That's okay baby 'cause in time you will find...

What goes around, goes around, goes around
Comes all the way back around
What goes around, goes around, goes around
Comes all the way back around
What goes around, goes around, goes around
Comes all the way back around
What goes around, goes around, goes around
Comes all the way back around

Now boy I remember everything that you claimed
You said that you were moving on now
And maybe I should do the same
Funny thing about that is
I was ready to give you my name
Thought it was me and you, babe
And now, it's all just a shame
And I guess I was wrong

Don't want to think about it
Don't want to talk about it
I'm just so sick about it
Can't believe it's ending this way
Just so confused about it
Feeling the blues about it
I just can't do without ya
Can you tell me is this fair?

Is this the way things are going down?
Is this how we say goodbye?
Should've known better when you came around (should've known better that you were gonna make me cry)
That you were going to make me cry
Now it's breaking my heart to watch you run around
'Cause I know that you're living a lie
That's okay baby 'cause in time you will find

What goes around, goes around, goes around
Comes all the way back around
What goes around, goes around, goes around
Comes all the way back around
What goes around, goes around, goes around
Comes all the way back around
What goes around, goes around, goes around
Comes all the way back around

What goes around comes around
Yeah
What goes around comes around
[ What Goes Around lyrics found on http://www.completealbumlyrics.com ]
You should know that
What goes around comes around
Yeah
What goes around comes around
You should know that

Don't want to think about it (no)
Don't want to talk about it
I'm just so sick about it
Can't believe it's ending this way
Just so confused about it
Feeling the blues about it (yeah)
I just can't do without ya
Tell me is this fair?

Is this the way things are going down?
Is this how we say goodbye?
Should've known better when you came around (should've known better that you were gonna make me cry)
That you were going to make me cry
Now it's breaking my heart to watch you run around
'Cause I know that you're living a lie
But that's okay baby 'cause in time you will find

What goes around, goes around, goes around
Comes all the way back around
What goes around, goes around, goes around
Comes all the way back around
What goes around, goes around, goes around
Comes all the way back around
What goes around, goes around, goes around
Comes all the way back around

[Comes Around interlude:]

Let me paint this picture for you, baby

You spend your nights alone
And she never comes home
And every time you call her
All you get's a busy tone
I heard you found out
That she's doing to you
What you did to me
Ain't that the way it goes

You cheated boy
My heart bleeded
So it goes without saying that you left me feeling hurt
Just a classic case
A scenario
Tale as old as time
boyyour gonna get what you deserve

And now you want somebody
To cure the lonely nights
You wish you had somebody
That could come and make it right

But boy I ain't somebody with a lot of sympathy
You'll see



See?
You should've listened to me, baby
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah
Because
(What goes around comes back around)

::.About My Friends.::
(Be honest! Don't think about feelings!)

* Of your friends, who is the *


Friendliest:Lauren

Prettiest:Lauren my hot mama

Ugliest:umm.... well eevryones pretty in their own way and ill leave it at that

Most talkative:SANDRA ( was =(

Most arrogant:Johanees =) ( sorry baby)

Most inmature:Cathrina

Most mature:Paula

Most perfect:hmm--nobodys perfect at least none of my friends

Most careless:Lauren

Most obsessive:once again Lauren

Richest:hm...proabbaly ...um... i dunno Johannes is the only onei know who always has money on him

Poorest:cathrina lol

Luckiest:Paula

Most unlucky:Frankers

One that has more screen names:lauren

One that has all three instant messengers:frankers(had)

Closest one to you:Johannes or lauren

One you've known for longest:lauren

One you can most relate to:hmm... well lauren understands me

One that shares your personality:dunno

One that is most like you physically:dunno

One that you've known for the less longest:jenni

One that has the worst grammar:cathrina

One that has the best grammar:niemelä

One that shares your hobbies:um lauren

One shares your musical interest:Johannes

One that does not share your musical interest at ALL:ummmm...no one really

One that has had a celphone longest:lala

One who does not have a celphone:noone

One that you have slept over their house more:lauren

One that has slept over your house more:lauren but Johannes is getting close

One that never slept over your house:jenni and paula

Skinniest:lauren

Smartest:My baby is aka johannes

Sluttiest:lauren

Less sluttiest:cathirna

Stupidest:JOhannes ( yeah he can be so smart and dumba t the same time)

One that dyes their hair most:lauren

One that has the darkest hair color:tiesha

One that has the lightest hair color:lauren

One that has the darkest skin color:tiesha

One that has the lightest skin color:cathrina

Blondest:cathrina and lauren are tied

Studious:i dunno know what the hell that means

Less studious:still dont know ( but i bet a certain someone will most likely tell me)

One that has failed a grade that you know of:a.j.

One that's supposed to be in another grade (Which grade?):umm.. noo ne

One that has a sn with the most 'x's in it:monkey

One that paints their nails more often:lauren

One that never paints their nails:hmm.. joahnnes haha

Most gothic:no one

Most gangster:lauren ahah

Preppiest:cathirina

Hippiest:i dunno what classifies hippiest

Most artistic:umm dunno

Most creative:no clue

Most random:that award goes to my hunny lol
Less creative:

Most paranoid:cathrina

Most risk-taking:lauren

One that spends the most time on the computer:joahnnes

One that spends the least time on the computer:cathirna

One that you have skipped school with the most:lauren

One that you have skipped class with the most:lauren

One that you have more classes with:no one

One that you have least classes with:lauren

One that does the most drugs:lauren

One that smokes the most cigarettes:lauren

One that drinks the most:hmm...

One that you have partied with the most:lauren

One that you have never partied with:

One that has the longest nails:

One that has the shortest nails:

35+ and you were spoiled


what of these have you had or have ?
[x] own car
[x] cell phone
[x] own phone line
[x] bf/gf
[x] own bathroom
[x] own room
[x] 2 or more story house
[x] built-in pool
[ ]guest house
[x] game room
[x] tv in your room
[x] Double Bed
[x] more than 20 pairs of shoes
[x] 10+ things from a designer store
[x] good grades
[x] Dior sunglasses
[x] louis vuitton purse
[ ] iPod
[ ] XBOX
[x] PS2
[x] mp3 player
[x] Mercedes Benz
[x]BMW
[ ] basketball hoop
[ ] air hockey table
[x] pool table
[ ] ping pong table
[ ] trampoline
[ ] live ON a lake or pond
[ ] own a pair of skiis
[ ] own a snowboard
[ ] had a boat
[ ] had a jet ski
[ ] had a beach house/ cabin

[ ] only child
[x] stereo system in bedroom
[x] DVD player in bedroom
[ ] 100+ dvd's
[x]got $50+ for allowance each month
[x] went shopping every month...or every week
[x] shopped at abercrombie
[ ] goes snowboarding/ skiing every weekend
[x] makeup
[x] cologne/perfume
[x] AIM
[x] MSN
[x]Yahoo
[x]5+ trophies
[x]own digital camera
[x]walk-in closet
[ ] electric scooter
[ ] dirt bike
[ ] 4X4 truck
[ ] guitar/drums
[ ] hammock
[x] been on a cruise
[x] traveled out of the country
[x] weight set/ workout set in house
[x] personal fit trainer
[x] expensive jewerly
[x] met a celeb
x] straightener/ curling iron
[x] gets hair done/nails/spas
[x] on/was on a Varsity team for the school
[ ] own batting cage
[ ] 100+ in wallet/ purse right now
[x] own savings account
[x]1+ BEST friends
[x] been to the carribean
[x] been to europe.
[ ] been to hawaii
[x] been to NY
[ ] shopped in seattle
[ ] eaten at the space needle in seattle
[ ] been on the eiffel tower in paris
[x] been on the statue of liberty in NY
[x] been on the honor roll for 2+ years
[ ] went on a trip for sweet sixteen birthday
[x] lives on a private property
[x] license
[x] moved 3+ times
[x ]sports car
[ x] hot tub
[ xx] pet(s)
[ ] ranch
[ xverizon
[ x] cingular
[ x]Sprint
[ ] virgin mobile / other
[ x] been to 5+ states in the US.
[ x] dont have a job.
[ x] 100+ buddies on messenger
[ x] alarm clock
[ ] home-cooked meal almost everyday
[x ] eat-out almost everyday
[ x] been in a limo
[x ] owned camcorder
[x ] owned laptop
[ x] owned desktop

1) Single, Taken, or Crushing?
ummm... no comment


2) Are you happy with where you are?
yes and no


3) When you meet the right person, do you fall fast?
nope well the right person then obviously


4) Have you ever had your heart broken?
yes its all i know

5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is ok?
nope


6) Would you ever take someone back if they cheated on you?
i seem to be doing that technically now


7) Have you talked about marriage with another person?
yes


8) Do you want children?
yes

9) How many?
2 or 3

10) Would you consider adoption?
yes

11) If somebody liked you right now, what do you think is a cool way to let you know?
tell me

12) Do you enjoy playing hard to get?
i dont play games.. games are pointless

13) Be honest, do you play the "game" when you are dating?
nope like i said before games are pointless.if u like someone then ur with them with no games and no bullshit but most people dont understand that

14) Do you believe love at first sight exists?
yes

15) Are you romantic?
i dunno sometimes
16) Do you believe that you can change someone?
weird question ... you cant change a person persay but i used to believe that treating a person a certain way wld change the way they treat you but thats looking like its not true either


17) If you could get married anywhere, money not an object where would it be?
on a cliff in hawaii overlooking the ocean


18) Do you have feelings for someone right now?
yeah

19) Have you ever wished you could've had someone but you couldn't?
kinda

20) Have you ever broken a heart?
nope im always at the recieving end

21) Would you ever fight somebody over your significant other?
proabably

22)What would you say about your last ex?
what cant i say about him .

1. EVER BEEN GIVEN AN ENGAGEMENT Ring?
yes

2. LONGEST RELATIONSHIP?
8 years

3. LAST GIFT YOU RECEIVED?
from joahnnes but no comment on what it was

4. EVER DROPPED A CELL PHONE?
yeah im the master at it

5. WHEN'S THE LAST TIME YOU WORKED OUT?
today

6. THING(S) YOU SPEND A LOT OF MONEY ON?
shoes
cell phones
clothes
electronics

7. LAST FOOD YOU ATE?
soup

8. FIRST THING YOU NOTICE ABOUT THE OPPOSITE SEX?
lot of things

9. ONE FAVORITE SONG?
one mic

10. WHERE DO YOU LIVE?
finland

11. HIGH SCHOOL YOU ATTENDED:
booker t, santaluces and lake worth high

12. CELL PHONE SERVICE PROVIDER:
kolumbus

13. FAVORITE MALL STORE:
dillards

14. LONGEST JOB YOU HAD:
2 years

15. DO YOU OWN A PAIR OF DICE?
yeah i have sex dice somewhere around here

16. DO YOU PRANK CALL PEOPLE?:
nope

17. LAST WEDDING YOU ATTENDED:
dont remember

18. FIRST FRIEND YOU'D CALL IF YOU WON THE LOTTERY:
johannes

19. LAST TIME YOU SAW YOUR BEST FRIEND:
a year :( the other one today

20. FAVORITE FAST FOOD RESTAURANT:
burger king

21. BIGGEST LIE YOU HAVE EVER HEARD:
hmm...that all men arent the same ahah

23. WHERE'S YOUR FAVORITE PLACE TO EAT WITH FRIENDS?
outback steak house or tgi fridays

24. CAN YOU COOK?
yuh

25. WHAT CAR DO YOU DRIVE?:
a few of them

26. BEST KISSER:
hmmm...my current man is ..(johannes)

27. LAST TIME YOU CRIED?:
yesterday..

28. MOST DISLIKED FOODS:
liver &duck

29. THING YOU LIKE MOST ABOUT YOURSELF:
not many things nowadays

30. THING YOU DISLIKE MOST ABOUT YOURSELF:
EVERYTHING

32. LONGEST SHIFT YOU HAVE WORKED AT A JOB?:
12 hours

33. FAVORITE MOVIE?
Scarface

34. CAN YOU SING?
yeah

35. LAST CONCERT ATTENDED?
Snoop and Diddy

36. LAST KISS?
johannes

37. LAST MOVIE RENTED:
umm wow .. too long to remember but ithink it was jarheads

38.ONE THING YOU NEVER LEAVE THE HOUSE WITHOUT:
my cell phone and house keys lol


39. FAVORITE vacation spot
Puerto Rico

43. LAPTOP OR DESKTOP COMPUTER?:
Laptop

44. FAVORITE COMEDIAN?:
Carlos Mencia or Dave Chappelle

45. DO YOU SMOKE?
yes

46. SLEEP WITH OR WITHOUT CLOTHES?
w/o

47. WHO SLEEPS WITH YOU EVERY NIGHT?:
my blankets

48. DO LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS WORK?:
i dunno probably not if the short distance one isnt( thats been the question on my mind )

49. HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU BEEN PULLED OVER BY THE POLICE?
countless

50. PANCAKES OR FRENCH TOAST?
french toast

51. DO YOU LIKE COFFEE?:
not really

52 HOW DO YOU LIKE YOUR EGGS?
scrambled with cheese

53. DO YOU BELIEVE IN ASTROLOGY?:
yes
54. LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THE PHONE?:
joahnnes
55. LAST PERSON ON YOUR MISSED CALL LIST?:
Cathrina

56. WHAT WAS THE LAST TEXT MESSAGE YOU RECIEVED?:
Mira asking me something

58. NUMBER OF PILLOWS?:
14

59. WHAT ARE YOU WEARING RIGHT NOW?:
bra and capri yoga pants

60. PICK A LYRIC, ANY LYRIC:
inhale deep like the words of my breath i never sleep cause sleep is the cousin of death
i lay puzzle as i backtrack to earlier times nothings equivalent to the new york state of mind

61. WHAT KIND OF JELLY DO YOU LIKE ON YOUR PB & J?:
none im allergic to pb

62. CAN YOU PLAY POOL?:
yes

63. CAN YOU SWIM?
umm yeah since i was like a year old

64. FAVORITE ICE CREAM?:
cake batter

65. DO YOU LIKE MAPS?
yeah i guess
66. TELL ME A RANDOM FACT ABOUT YOURSELF:
im scared of crabs


68. EVER ATTEND A THEME PARTY?:
yeah

69. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SEASON
summer
70. LAST TIME YOU LAUGHED AT SOMETHING STUPID?
umm proabbly last week

71. WHAT TIME DID YOU WAKE UP THIS MORNING ?
11 am

72. BEST THING ABOUT WINTER?:
christmas

73. LAST TIME A COP GAVE YOU A TICKET?:
last april

75. NAME OF YOUR FIRST PET?:
tina the turtle

76. DO YOU THINK PIRATES ARE COOL OR OVERRATED?:
a mix of both

77. WHAT ARE YOU DOING THIS WEEKEND??
going thru living hell

78. BIRTHDATE
03 27 1985

79. WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE:
something else then i am now

85. ARE YOU ON A LAPTOP?:
yes

87. ARE YOU SMILING?:
no

89. DO YOU MISS SOMEONE RIGHT NOW
yeah :(

90. IF YOU COULD GO ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD WHERE WOULD YOU GO?
somewhere where nobody knows my name

92. ARE YOU IN HIGH SCHOOL?:
no

93. DO YOU HAVE A CRUSH?:
something like that

94. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE NAME?
hm..

95. WHAT COLOR IS YOUR BATHING SUIT?:
which one

96. DOES YOUR SCHOOL START IN AUGUST?:
yeah

97. DID YOU GO ON VACATION LAST MONTH?:
nope

98. HAVE YOU EVER BEEN ON A CRUISE?:
yeah

99. DO YOU HAVE A SISTER:
yeah

100. ARE YOU UPSTAIRS?:
technically
101. ARE YOU IN LOVE?:
yessir

102. HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN THE HOSPITAL?
yeah

103. DO YOU WISH YOU COULD SEE ANYONE PARTICULAR RIGHT NOW?
omg yea

104. WHAT JEWELRY ARE YOU WEARING?
a chain earings a ring and a braclet

105.ARE YOU HAPPY RIGHT NOW:
happy? whats that

105. WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO AFTER THIS SURVEY?

GOOD GIRL VS BAD GIRL

There's an old joke that goes: Good girls say, "No;" bad girls ask, "When?"

It's the classic dichotomy for the male psyche -- madonna vs. whore, Mary Ann vs. Ginger, housewife vs. ho, homebody vs. party girl. Which of the two is better?

As men, we're instantly aroused by the Pamela Andersons of the world, but inside we know we could never tame -- much less trust -- a female like this. Instinctively we seek out more normal, down-to-earth women when we're thinking of marriage and children.

Still, it's a problem that never goes away. We want the best of both worlds: a princess on the street and a whore in the bedroom. Someone who is nice and treats us with respect, yet who acts like a wildcat in heat between the sheets. So just what are the advantages and disadvantages of dating bad girls and good girls? And is it possible to somehow combine the two types into one perfect woman?

First, let's look at some of the qualities embodied by the Bad Girl:
the goods on the bad girl
She's fun
She can party all night, drink herself into a stupor and still get up the next day and be ready for more. She'll laugh and flirt, and make you feel like a man.

She's exciting
Bad girls are walking adrenaline rushes. For her, life is a roller coaster ride, and it'll get your blood singing just to be along for the trip. Bad girls never have time for introspection or depression -- they're too busy grabbing the world by the horns.

She craves sex
The bad girl loves men and makes no bones about it. She's more than happy to fulfill any fantasy you can dream up. She's the kind who will tear up the sheets while she's screaming out her seventh orgasm in a row (you'll feel like you're the king of the sexual world). And you won't have to deal with any head games -- she's more than happy to seduce you 24/7.

She's eye candy
Bad girls are usually very attractive with jaw-dropping figures -- the ultimate "hot babes." They know how to walk the walk and strut their stuff. They get off on being the center of male attention. A bad girl loves plunging necklines, bare midriffs, high heels, skirts hemmed at mid-thigh, strapless anything, and sexy lingerie (if she wears any underwear at all).

She ups your status
When you have a stunner like this on your arm, all other men are jealous and women are intrigued, and immediately your stud rating soars into the stratosphere. You'll be the stuff of legends when you regale your buddies with tales from your bedroom.


She's untrustworthy
All men want her and she knows it, and she's definitely a serial flirter. Because she's such a sexual animal, she's apt to seduce anyone who strikes her fancy, so you shouldn't expect a bad girl to be loyal.

She's dangerous
She's the type who will go 100 in a 30 mph zone just because she likes the rush. She may be into drugs or excessive alcohol consumption. She's spontaneous, unpredictable and wild.

She makes a bad partner
Bad girls are extremely self-obsessed and selfish. They think about one person: themselves. They're extravagant and will spend their last dime on themselves. They don't settle down comfortably. For these reasons, they usually make lousy wives and mothers, and rarely survive lifelong relationships.

She is expensive
No low-maintenance here -- from day one she'll be looting your wallet for expensive meals, trips and jewelry. The typical bad girl sets a very high price on the use of her vagina, and if you don't want to cough up the cash, there'll be plenty of guys panting in the wings to pay her price.




the goods on the good girl
She's wholesome and nice
A good girl is rarely bitchy or "empowered." She's pleasant to be around and has a positive attitude toward life. She'll go out of her way to help you or take care of you when you're sick, and when problems arise, she'll discuss them calmly, instead of flying into a rage or screaming at you just because you're a "man."

She's a clean slate
With her limited sexual experience, a good girl doesn't have a lot of men to compare you to and won't expect you to be a world-class lover.

She's unlikely to cheat on you
Good girls tend to be homebodies, not party girls. Because she doesn't present herself in the same sexually-alluring manner that a bad girl does, you won't have to worry about a lot of other guys coming on to her. A good girl wants to find the one true love of her life and stay with him until death do them part, instead of seducing half the male population before she gets too old.

She's often your best friend
She genuinely enjoys your company and gives back to you as much as she takes. When you're gone, she misses you; when you're at home, she showers you with attention.

She's easier on finances
Good girls can rate low on the maintenance scale -- they're much more likely to share dating expenses (just because it's the right thing to do), and if you get married, she'll happily throw her paycheck in with yours to pay the mortgage and bills.

She makes a good wife & mother
The typical good girl is practical, down-to-earth and nurturing. She loves children. She usually comes from a good family and wants to carry on those family values in her own life.


the bads on the good girl
She's about as exciting as vanilla
Since she'd rather stay at home reading a book than go out partying, life with a good girl can be a bit uneventful.

She can be a sexual dud
Good girls are often boring in bed, either from lack of experience or lack of desire. Sex with her is predictable. She rarely inspires lust and will probably wait for her man to initiate lovemaking. This can leave the typical guy very unfulfilled, his gaze straying toward that bad girl over there with the unfettered nipples and the long wraparound legs.

She's fashionably comfortable
She wears her hair pulled back and little make-up. She prefers sweats and tennis shoes to mini skirts and pumps. Oftentimes, you can forget about thong underwear.
the good to bad
So the question remains: Which one should you choose? The obvious answer is that the perfect woman would embody the best of both of these types -- the niceness and loyalty of the good girl and the sexual abandon of the bad girl.

While such women may exist naturally out there, it's more likely that, to achieve this ideal, you'll have to train a good girl to be bad (because there's no way a bad girl is going to be good).

How?

Well, this may not be an easy task, because many good girls have been brainwashed by mom, church or school into thinking that "bad" is inherently wrong. So the trick is to encourage her natural sexuality. Make her comfortable with sex. Romance her. Tell her how sexy she is when she seduces you or fulfills your fantasies -- or how satisfying it is to fulfill hers. Let her understand that great sex between the two of you can create an awesome bond, and that it is -- ultimately -- "good."

So while bad girls can be exciting, they're usually only worth it in the short term. If you can find a good girl and turn her into a sexual animal, you may just have found the perfect woman. And pretty soon, your good girl may be asking, "When?"

Fans of abstinence had better be sitting down. "Saving yourself" before the big game, the big business deal, the big hoedown or the big bakeoff may indeed confer some moral benefit. But corporeally it does absolutely zip. There's no evidence it sharpens your competitive edge. The best that modern science can say for sexual abstinence is that it's harmless when practiced in moderation. Having regular and enthusiastic sex, by contrast, confers a host of measurable physiological advantages, be you male or female. (This assumes that you are engaging in sex without contracting a sexually transmitted disease.)

In one of the most credible studies correlating overall health with sexual frequency, Queens University in Belfast tracked the mortality of about 1,000 middle-aged men over the course of a decade. The study was designed to compare persons of comparable circumstances, age and health. Its findings, published in 1997 in the British Medical Journal, were that men who reported the highest frequency of orgasm enjoyed a death rate half that of the laggards. Other studies (some rigorous, some less so) purport to show that having sex even a few times a week has an associative or causal relationship with the following:

- Improved sense of smell: After sex, production of the hormone prolactin surges. This in turn causes stem cells in the brain to develop new neurons in the brain's olfactory bulb, its smell center.

- Reduced risk of heart disease: In a 2001 follow-on to the Queens University study mentioned above, researchers focused on cardiovascular health. Their finding? That by having sex three or more times a week, men reduced their risk of heart attack or stroke by half. In reporting these results, the co-author of the study, Shah Ebrahim, Ph.D., displayed the well-loved British gift for understatement: "The relationship found between frequency of sexual intercourse and mortality is of considerable public interest."

- Weight loss, overall fitness: Sex, if nothing else, is exercise. A vigorous bout burns some 200 calories--about the same as running 15 minutes on a treadmill or playing a spirited game of squash. The pulse rate, in a person aroused, rises from about 70 beats per minute to 150, the same as that of an athlete putting forth maximum effort. British researchers have determined that the equivalent of six Big Macs can be worked off by having sex three times a week for a year. Muscular contractions during intercourse work the pelvis, thighs, buttocks, arms, neck and thorax. Sex also boosts production of testosterone, which leads to stronger bones and muscles. Men's Health magazine has gone so far as to call the bed the single greatest piece of exercise equipment ever invented.

- Reduced depression: Such was the implication of a 2002 study of 293 women. American psychologist Gordon Gallup reported that sexually active participants whose male partners did not use condoms were less subject to depression than those whose partners did. One theory of causality: Prostoglandin, a hormone found only in semen, may be absorbed in the female genital tract, thus modulating female hormones.

- Pain-relief: Immediately before orgasm, levels of the hormone oxytocin surge to five times their normal level. This in turn releases endorphins, which alleviate the pain of everything from headache to arthritis to even migraine. In women, sex also prompts production of estrogen, which can reduce the pain of PMS.

- Less-frequent colds and flu: Wilkes University in Pennsylvania says individuals who have sex once or twice a week show 30% higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, which is known to boost the immune system.

- Better bladder control: Heard of Kegel exercises? You do them, whether you know it or not, every time you stem your flow of urine. The same set of muscles is worked during sex.

- Better teeth: Seminal plasma contains zinc, calcium and other minerals shown to retard tooth decay. Since this is a family Web site, we will omit discussion of the mineral delivery system. Suffice it to say that it could be a far richer, more complex and more satisfying experience than squeezing a tube of Crest--even Tartar Control Crest. Researchers have noted, parenthetically, that sexual etiquette usually demands the brushing of one's teeth before and/or after intimacy, which, by itself, would help promote better oral hygiene.

- A happier prostate? Some urologists believe they see a relationship between infrequency of ejaculation and cancer of the prostate. The causal argument goes like this: To produce seminal fluid, the prostate and the seminal vesicles take such substances from the blood as zinc, citric acid and potassium, then concentrate them up to 600 times. Any carcinogens present in the blood likewise would be concentrated. Rather than have concentrated carcinogens hanging around causing trouble, it's better to evict them. Regular old sex could do the job. But if the flushing of the prostate were your only objective, masturbation might be a better way to go, especially for the non-monogamous male. Having sex with multiple partners can, all by itself, raise a man's risk of cancer by up to 40%. That's because he runs an increased risk of contracting sexual infections. So, if you want the all the purported benefits of flushing with none of the attendant risk, go digital. A study recently published by the British Journal of Urology International asserts that men in their 20s can reduce by a third their chance of getting prostate cancer by ejaculating more than five times a week.

While possession of a robust appetite for sex--and the physical ability to gratify it--may not always be the cynosure of perfect health, a reluctance to engage can be a sign that something is seriously on the fritz, especially where the culprit is an infirm erection.

Dr. J. Francois Eid, a urologist with Weill Medical College of Cornell University and New York Presbyterian Hospital, observes that erectile dysfunction is extension of vascular system. A lethargic member may be telling you that you have diseased blood vessels elsewhere in your body. "It could be a first sign of hypertension or diabetes or increased cholesterol levels. It's a red flag that you should see your doctor." Treatment and exercise, says Dr. Eid, can have things looking up again: "Men who exercise and have a good heart and low heart rate, and who are cardio-fit, have firmer erections. There very definitely is a relationship."

But is there such a thing as too much sex?

The answer, in purely physiological terms, is this: If you're female, probably not. If you're male? You betcha.